http://www.davidewer.com/sample.jpg
The reference track is included in that screenshot.
The problem is that the song sounds basically fine when I listen through my home stereo, except that the bass drum, though not boomy, has a punch that feels like a smack on the top of my head with a hammer.

I compared my track to the reference track on my home stereo, and turned the bass up on the stereo until the reference track just began to break up in the bass, then backed it off. At this setting, the speakers break up at each bass drum hit.
If I tweak the bass area to reduce the punch, it adversely affects the bass guitar.
Is there anything you can see from my graphic that tells you what's wrong?
Thanks in advance,
-Dave Ewer